Wednesday, October 12, 2005

Notes From the In Between

Seven months, 21 plane trips (I think that trip back to LA for my drivers license tipped me into the ridiculous for the amount of miles flown- see photo of infamous license, REALLY cute (I know that sounds awfully haughty but I look so happy in it! Damnit if I was going to fly 6,000 miles to get my photo taken at the DMV then I was gonna get a good one!!! Thank you Tamara, for driving me at 7:30 am!!!!!). . . . . . and on Sunday I arrive in my new home. Firenze!!!!
L’Shanah Tovah! Happy new year! It is Rosh Hashannah. We are in the “ten days of awe” between now and Yom Kippur. How amazing, not even to my planning, is it that I travel into this new period of time during these days? These days of self-reflection and growth. And what have I to reflect on? Well, of course so very much…..
For one, my expectations, are, I have learned, best left to the side of my actions… my dreams can stand, my goals, but my expectations I am learning are not my friends. They narrow the experience I can have… they create a view that is without space.
That is why I have so few for Florence. I had plans to work for Syracuse University while there, but they may have fallen aside. Or not. I had plans to complete my masters, but that as well is taking its own pace. I think I will go to Florence with what drew me to it initially….. and I think the best way to share that with you, if you will indulge me because I’d like you to know, to show you what I am entering into and why…. is the piece I wrote in Maia’s writing class… the first piece I wrote after my very first time there a year and a half ago. And then you’ll know what Florence is to me and why I am going.
But before that I also want to say that it’s good to have animals share our lives with us. I predicted…. I expected… Matilda to hover in closets during this time-in-between Syracuse and Florence. But as you can see from the photo that was not her plan at all. At Niki’s she climbed the rafters of their home (see photos of cat 30 feet in the air!) In Maryland she roamed my parents apartment in the face of their loveable but hyper chihuaha. She hasn’t gone face to face with my little nephew (see photo cause he’s so damn cute at his 2-year-old bdy party!!!) but I’m sure she’d do just fine.
Yes, I think I will be like Matilda. Live against my expectations and see what gets thrown at me next. Or gently tossed. . . .
Ci vediamo a presto (we will see each other soon)…..I’ll see you in Firenze!!!
“Gentle, gentle” as a memory but not a known, intimate one.

Not a memory that sits in a cell of skin on your arm which is always there crying out to you ‘remember me’ when the scent of a particular rose is enjoyed. Nor the memory of pain — which is hidden deeper in the flesh. More near the heart where the blood is cleaned and recycled. Beating a rhythm of life undetected and, often, unrecognized or acknowledged.

“Gentle, gentle” the memory whispers, and it is familiar even within its own unique, never-heard-before voice. It is quiet and, yet, so truly intimate that you know, you just know it must be yours. Yet you have no recollection of the date of its birth. Of the moment it took root and held fast among the undergrowth of your daily comings and goings.

But here it is. Like luce — like light. Gentle as a reminder of who you are. And, as unexpected, as uninvited — always present. So much so that you barely notice — until it draws attention to itself in its own glory. Until, like the dawn, like the early evening sleep come upon our day, like the bacci of luce on fiore caught at a glance as you ride through known territory — you can not deny it is here. For you. Only for you.

“Gentle, gentle” glistens like a newly polished gem placed in the only setting possibly worthy of it. Like the steps taken through cobblestone streets and alleys offering discoveries at every breath, at every click of your known heels on unknown territory so new to you it is yours entirely. It is a whisper as pure as the smile on the shopkeeper who wraps your gift with so much pride that tears leave your eyes to have witnessed it.

To have witnessed — to have shared. To have tasted and been tasted.


To have seen and been seen. Gentle and gentle more. There is no going back when doors — crafted, textured doors — are opened warmly with a smile and you are enveloped by this sensation — lost in it to be found. And you have been opened — again. And, for the very, very first time.

For the FIRST time life has a voice. It’s own, particular sound which tastes luscious in the mouth — soft and creamy with a lacing of cioccolate and liquor gently mixed and molded and placed at YOUR table on YOUR plate to lift YOUR fork this night to savor — surprisingly, giving over — to the most delisioso tiramisu ever-made-only-made-for-you.

There is no more moment more gentle then this other than the blush which softens your heart as it melts — as the casing starts to gently crumble by the waiter’s blushing sweet face and you remember something else you had forgotten or, truly, never knew. Even though it was there for you. And now it is served to perfection.

“Gentle, gentle” is yet so quiet you don’t hear the words –not these words, not yet. But kindness has arrived and, with no desire to leave, opened its heart to you as a mirror saying “see! see!” This is what is. Quietly, of course, as revered as the hall of Santa Croce and as small as a mouse as delicate as God, she greets you there among the greatness. You find her because you do. She is going nowhere, she is ever present. And you have found her.

It is a kindness to bring her home — in so many forms. To bring her to the place you reside and sit with her among the familiars. A self-kindness which resonates and is new, like she is. And everlasting as is she. “Bella, Bella” is a good word for your heart to sing daily.

“Gentle. Gentle” I recall, I remember gentle and gentle and gentle more.

Posted by Bari in 22:27:36
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